A few months back, I was talking to a friend of mine, a new friend, so we were just talking about our lives. He was telling me about how he’s been kinda weird his whole life, about how he’s kinda awkward socially, about how for years his parents and doctors called him A.D.D., about how he was pretty seriously medicated for a long time.
Then when he was around 19 or so, he decided to quit all his meds. He was sick of feeling zoned out all the time. Sure, he focused a little better, and didn’t have moments of mental shut down and reset, as he calls it, but he was so zoned out that he felt like a shadow of himself.
Way back when we talked about this, he said he thought he might have Aspergers’s, because he had started researching what might make him the way he is. Unfortunately, he has no support in this, and no official testing or anything has been done. To me, it seems like his parents are fine with just having a weird kid, but from what he’s told me, they are so impatient with him. It really drives me nuts.
I feel kinda like his big sister. He just turned 21 and still lives at home. He had tried living on his own for awhile, but didn’t have the life skills. It doesn’t help that he’s blind in one eye, and going blind in the other. It’s almost like his family has just written him off, and it drives me crazy.
I saw him yesterday, since he is beginning health and wellness on the same days as me. He had come in for his paperwork and then towards the end of my workout, he was being shown the weight room. I had gotten done and was getting Jayden to go outside and I heard my friend say, “I’m listening, really, I just got a big distracted.” And all my research into autism and Asperger’s came flooding in. I remembered him telling me before about how sometimes when more than one thing was going on, his brain would literally stop for a second until it “reset”. And it seemed like that’s what happened yesterday. I was getting Jayden and talking to Lisa when I heard him tell the other trainer that he was listening.
I know I’m no doctor or any kind of Asperger’s expert just from doing this series, but man, I think it’s something his doctors should look into, don’t you? I’ve read too many stories about adults diagnosed with a form of autism later in life, and it’s such a relief to them, to know why their a little quirky. It just seems like it would help my friend to know. He’s already found ways of coping, like his resetting, but I just wish he’d get some kind of proper diagnosis, instead of everyone just calling him weird. I sense others getting impatient with him sometimes and it makes me want to scream. I love him like a little brother and sometimes I feel like I advocate for him. I kept pushing to get him into wellness with me, since we got on the waiting list at the same time. I know when he’s at Saavi, he is just so happy, and the other clients just love him. People kept asking where my sidekick was haha.
Anyway, I guess I thought this warranted a post. Even if it’s not Asperger’s or another form of autism, doesn’t he deserve some freakin attention, instead of just being labeled weird???