MH – Tribute to mental health professionals, and an early series end

I’ve decided to end the mental health series early, without completing thirty posts. I have to take care of my own mental health, and this month has really gotten me down.

I really agonized over this. Thinking to myself that it would be selfish of me to let my own feelings stop me from doing an entire month, that since everything I’ve learned so far has affected me so dramatically, that it was even more important to get awareness out there.

But I had to think back to a conversation I had with Carol about a month ago. We were talking about our capacities to be of service and how we’re limited do to our respective disabilities. Carol made a really good point. She said something like, there are plenty of people in the world who can help. We don’t have to be the one to save everyone.

That really stuck with me and I’ve been working really hard over the last few months to set limitations, to take care of myself first. I cannot transmit something I haven’t got, meaning I’m not being of service if my heart isn’t in it, if I’m not mentally sound enough.

And I’m not mentally sound enough to continue digging up information for posts. I think we got some really great guest posts. I think all of the guest bloggers really gave us a personal glimpse into mental illness. I want to keep it that way. I don’t want to post half hearted attempts to find something to post about and give my own skewed opinions, through a haze of my own blue filter.

This leads me to want to send a tremendous thanks to those mental health professionals who can. Those people who went through the grueling schooling and training to be able to listen to others for hours on end, those people who are able to push away their own thoughts and opinions to reach out and help another.

Someone very close to me is a social worker. What he goes through…what he sees…the things he has to fight for, trying to fight for the rights of his clients in a system that cares more for the dollar than for human life. I already had a deep respect for him and others in the field, but it wasn’t until I started trying to write a post each day about mental health, that I realized the depth of what these people go through on a day to day basis. I only touched on it. I only took a small glimpse into that world. Mental health professionals do it every day. They are there to council us, to hold our hand, to be our advocates. It takes a special kind of person to fit that role, and I know I am not it.

So I close this series now, on that note. I know it’s the right decision for me. Hopefully if there has been any theme to what I did post, it’s that help is out there, people have recovered. I can say with certainty that most people who work in mental health are prepared and ready for those of us who need their help.

The rest of May is still mental health awareness month. You can still go learn something. Go Google something you’ve always wondered about. Make yourself aware. And remember that we never know what someone “out there” might be going through when we think they’re rude or a little ‘off’.

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14 Responses to MH – Tribute to mental health professionals, and an early series end

  1. You know what? It’s not selfish to stop something that isn’t good for your own mental health. That is one of the first things they teach you if you do any kind of volunteering in the field. You have to take care of yourself, or you’re no good to take care of another.

    The very thing you’re feeling is why I didn’t pursue a career in social work. I am not capable of that level of detachment.

    Take care of you.

  2. Jen

    Well done on putting the series together Ro. The posts were very interesting.
    I’d love to be a social worker but I know I wound’t be able to forget about people’s problems when I finish work every day.

  3. Ro

    I’ve pretty much taken a break from the computer, choosing to spend the day crocheting and listening to a book. Soon a baseball game will be on and I can escape for a few hours πŸ˜‰

  4. the ball game you’re listening to, is it the Jays and the DBags…I mean DBacks? If not, the jays are winning 1-0. I assume you’ve got the Rays game on.

    The MH series was interesting, but definitely end it if you’re not feeling it for whatever reason. Do your thing, we’ll be here no matter what. If you have to half ass something, people will notice and it wont’ come off well. Best to leave well enough alone and take care of you as Carin said.

  5. Ro

    Steve. Why would I be listening to the Jays/Dbacks? I am a little disappointed though, that we didn’t know the Jays would be two hours away until today. Would have been nice to go even though I don’t care about either team. Would have had to root for the Dbacks I guess. I don’t want to talk about the Rays game.

  6. Ro – you are so sweet. As a therapist, I thank you. I am inspired each day by my clients. Thank you for all the time you have taken and hope you have some time for you. Self-compassion is so important.

  7. Don’t worry, I don’t want to talk about the Jays game either. We lost even though we kept things interesting.

  8. Ro,
    When this series began I thought, wow I could be a guest blogger with an arsenal of illnesses in my family. But I found myself reading instead.

    As you know, I mentor many, not just on a writing level but I have sacrificed many years of my life to give to the addicts, the not-so-well-never-insane friends of society. I myself overcame alcoholism through the grace of God and it was with His hand that I walked forward in life, helping anyone and everyone, driving myself insane at times but always, always putting my heart and soul into the journey.

    Without the heart and soul we can wind up hurting more than we can help, and you’re doing the right thing taking the reins back and putting you first.

    I look forward to continue reading your work whether it is about Jayden, life, gamma, a journey. Take it easy, finish up that story you started and I pray that it helped you along your journey. πŸ™‚

    godspeed friend!

    jnoi

  9. Ro

    Ok Steve, we won’t talk about the games. We kept it interesting too, by having the best record in all of baseball and losing to Houston. Blech.

    JayNoi, you have most definitely helped me along the way. Hopefully now I can take some time to write the last assignment. I’ve definitely learned that with the writing, I can’t overdo it or I burn out and don’t want to touch a computer. I’ve also learned so much about myself in the last few months. Isn’t it awesome to grow and make discoveries about yourself? πŸ™‚

  10. Ahh, growing and discovery; things that never stop until our last breath. πŸ™‚

  11. Your loss sucks for you, but it doesn’t mess you guys up in the standings. the Jays are 6 games behind you and could have really used that win to make up a little ground.

  12. Ro,
    I am glad you have stopped the series. While it was good to get aware, some of the posts were quite scary. It really makes you think about stuff. I am glad that we both have become more aware. I am glad that you knew when to stop, and take a step back. It is quite a hard heavy topic to discuss for a whole month. Well done for you for sticking for 20 odd days.

    Go and enjoy some “You” time, and just enjoy life.

    Well done on the guest post by the way.

    I hope you take a couple of days to recover, and get back to your normal spunky self.

    Take care, xxx

  13. Anonymous

    I concur! Good for you!
    ~Carol

  14. Thank you for hosting the series, and for taking care of yourself.

    Big hugs.

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